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Throughout my late teen years and even my early twenties, I felt as though I was trailing behind almost every other female my age who was in her third serious relationship, or about to move in with a partner, thinking about buying houses and having children. It was like I was the leper of my generation. Underpinning this was a constant fear that I would never find love, and I worried that men would think I was unworthy of it.
During lockdown 1. I had recently moved to London, I knew nobody in the area and like the hopeless romantic I am, I thought that isolation might somehow lead me to meet my match and fall madly in love. At first, I was nervous about telling whoever I was talking to about my virginial ways.
How would they react? But when the time came, I was honest and told them straight — then nervously awaited their response. I was sitting on the edge of my seat when my phone pinged with his reply. In fact he never brought it up in conversation again. He neither fetishised my virginity or shunned me because of it, and my confidence soared. This happened time and again.
Almost every time I brought up my virgin status, nobody cared. Only one man shamed me. He was a few years my senior and quizzed me with intrusive questions before finally telling me there must be something wrong with me if nobody wanted to sleep with me. It knocked me but only for a while — it would have been far worse had I not had so many affirming interactions already. Perhaps I should have guessed that masturbation would crop up too. The men of Tinder et al seemed far more perplexed by the fact I masturbated than my being a virgin, which I suppose is positive, although I would have thought it would be the other way around.
It means prioritising intimacy with somebody, trusting them, exposing myself at a pace that suits me and letting them into my heart and soul rather than my body. In the exact same way that some people feel empowered by having sex, I feel empowered because I am a virgin. I have a better understanding of who I am, I do exactly what I want and I no longer feel the need to conform to societal pressures.
Virginity, after all, is a social construct, and one I believe was created to keep women controlled and at the beck-and-call of men. This pressure built up during my teens and contributed to the magnitude of my thoughts and fears but I refuse to be ashamed of it any longer. If you have a love story to share, rosy. MORE : I'm too short to find love. Visit Metro's Rush Hour Crush online every weekday at pm.
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